The Big Book of Excuses
So, I work in an office with about 20 other people. We are a tight knit group, and I am one of four women. We have a kitchen full of snacks, lunch gets brought in for everyone on occasion, some of us go out a couple times a month and then there is the monthly birthday cake BS.
I have come to terms with this and can get over not having all that food all of the time, but what is REALLY bugging me are the PEOPLE! Today I was harassed by 3 people for not eating ice cream and cake, and they all want to know why and its only a little, and come on its a birthday...BLAH BLAH
SO, what I would like from you all successful Slow Carbers who work with others, in the office or whatever, are some of your best lines to get out of the damn argument of why I am not eating crappy cake from Wal Mart.
I have found myself going into more depth than I am comfortable with about my new eating plan and such, and then I get angry for having to explain myself to the ignorant schmucks. I even ended an argument today with the following line: " I don't think cavemen baked bread!"
What are some of the things you say to your co-workers to politely turn them down and get them out of your face quickly?
I'm sorry you are in that situation.
Just be honest, tell them, "I'm adopting a new healthier lifestyle and I would appreciate it if you would respect my wishes." If they keep on arguing with you or bullying/pressuring you, then, just walk away.
They just don't understand because they haven't done it themselves. Don't be pressured or bullied to eat something you choose not to. There are always going to be people like that, just politely tell them what's what. If they are still going on and on about it, then, just walk away or change the subject.
It may be my paranoid self, but I think people who are wanting to enable others whom they see are being strong and showing lots of willpower really want to have that same willpower themselves, but they can't/won't get to that point themselves.
I know it's hard, but I admire you standing your ground. YAY for embracing the slow carb lifestyle, don't listen to enablers like that.
Keep it up!
I'm not sure this will help you, but...
Long before I was slow carbing, I still ate healthy. Always brought my lunch to work...veggies, fruit, tuna...etc.
Tight knit group..like yours...
One day, at the cafeteria table a buddy of mine looks at me and my food (I think cafeteria pizza was on his plate) and says:
"you know...you eat like an a##-hole"
I guess I made him (and others) less enjoy eating crap...
We're still friends by BTW...
Keep doing what you're doing...
Sounds just like my little sister. I've only recently began seeing progress with this diet (6 lbs), and since the bloat is gone i've been looking and feeling better already When I choose to opt out of anything non-SCD friendly, I get a little speech about "any diet that stops you from eating anything is unhealthy".
Think of them as my little sister. They are only making a big deal about it because they're feeling guilty inside that they are eating cake while you're on the road to being fabulous!
Don't cave! Let them know that you feel great, and that you have absolutely no desire for sweets (even if that may be stretching the truth).
Best of luck!
First of all- I feel with you and have been through the same misery myself.
Now, however, I've found giving any excuse with a giant smile will make everyone question me less. If you look like you're in great pain for craving that cake they'll naturally sense your weakness and go after it, but if you fire off a toothy smile and say something about slow carbing...or actually whatever reason that suits you at the moment they'll shut up. Be confident! It's reassuring and sexy.
Still though, there's moments where I feel like not saying anything about it, not explaining, not change my carbs for veggies at lunch etc and in those cases I'll just have whatever's offered to me and then play with my fork and eventually "forget" the food or look like I've had a bite or so. It's not a great way of getting around the issue but I work with customers and have to play the game sometimes.
I hope this helped a little. Don't forget to smile!
Well, you could say "I'm alergic to getting fat! If I were to eat that cake, I'd start getting bigger and bigger and......"
Part of this is serious, part humor.
It's too bad people can't respect what you're doing. I've found 99% of the people I talk to about my change in diet and life style applaud me and my efforts.
You could tell them how much you've lost (exaggerate a bit.....it's ok ) and just tell them that you're not about to break your commitment to yourself and your goal.
I live in the obesity capital on the world, so i got this reaction from almost everyone. People seem to want you to fail, to be just like everyone else.
Tomorrow i will have completed week 22. I'm not sure how far in it happened, but eventually they gave up. Now i get: "He cant have that, he's on a diet." = )
I used their efforts as motivation. The more i was pushed to eat junk, the more steadfast i acted.
I've talked to everyone i know about the book and the diet, but no converts yet.
BTW, when does "diet" become "this is the way i eat" ...
For one thing, I know exactly what you mean as I worked in a place like that. Everything was a food celebration. Sit in your office chair all day and then join in for the catered lunch, the birthday cake, “sundae days”, etc. Food food food! It made me crazy! I felt the pressure and I joined in, that is also when I went from 135 lbs to 155 lbs within a year. I regretted it big time…have not been able to get back to where I was and even though I have since quit working there I have continued over the next 2 years afterwards to put on weight. So saying NO will only benefit you. Don’t be one to “give in” and regret it later on like I did! Stay strong!
A few things I did when I finally decided to stop joining in on the lunchtime binges, cake days etc (I was on the HCG diet at the time which is extremely restrictive!): Brought my own food and ate that while others ate their binge food, told people flat out I was trying to eat healthy and was not eating anything with sugar or carbs, stayed in my office at lunch or went “out” on my own and ate my food in my car or at a park. Another idea if you want to avoid the pressures of cake, tell them you are gluten free, although sometimes people will try to accommodate that. I also read someone elses suggestions of walking around with a piece of cake, break it with your fork, shift it around on your plate, and eventually dump it in the garbage when no one is paying attention lol
Either way, whatever you do, don’t allow the other bingers to pressure you. If you start keeping to yourself during the cake times they might get the hint and leave you alone. I found most people in my office were overweight, some extremely. Just keep reminding yourself why you are doing this and the end result will make you happy!
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