I managed to stick to SCD without any cheating on non-cheat days for 4 weeks. Then I just became so annoyed by the fact that I can't have dinner at my friends/family because it's almost never SCD-friendly; it feels pretty ungrateful not being able to take a single bite of what they cooked up for you. Add to that that about the only responses I got from people were "but why are you going on a diet?" and the "well, I don't know about you but I am just gonna eat this cake" (à la the office workers sketch from Catherine Tate show). Last but not least is that I work at a coffee place where we don't really get breaks; we're just supposed to chow down some bread with cheese when there's not as many customers.
In other words; I failed in the end.
I'm in a phase now where I actually eat SCD about 3 - 4 days and overindulge on sugars on the other days. Not putting on masses (yet) because I manage to exercise pretty regularly. I do feel that my body is kind of 'off', however, and I want to get back on track. I feel that the anti-social part of the SCD is something that I need to overcome first in order to succeed.
So I'm kind of curious; how do you handle the whole 'anti-social' part of the SCD?
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I'm not a drinker, but during social situations, I usually order a drink and just carry it around. When the office cake comes out, rather than being antisocial and avoiding the gathering, or explaining why I'm not partaking of the goodies, I take a small piece of cake and break it up a few times with my fork and hold that for a few minutes until I can discreetly throw it in the trash. I had to change my deeply ingrained idea that food must not be wasted. Nobody is going to starve if one piece of cake ends up in the trash once in awhile.
I think it's super important not to look at this as "failing," we all slip up. You've had a set back, ok cool you've acknowledge it and now move on from it. Way to go on your four weeks btw.
I find that people are less jerky about trying to force you to eat if you say a) you aren't hungry or b) you can't eat sugar (or whatever). This is just my experience but I have more people trying to sabotage me when I say I'm trying to lose weight then when I say I'm not hungry or am allergic to something...it's a sh*tty deal, but there it is.
As to eating at family and friends it's like everyone is saying, plan for that to be your cheat day and then just have at least 5 days (i think it's five) before the next cheat day.
and as themiller said, if you have non cheat day cheat meal just eat SCD for the rest of your meals.
It can become uncomfortable at times. I'm tired of hearing, "Pears, not even pears, these don't have sugar, and your body needs it."
I worked in the corporate world for over 8 years. There was free yummy muffins and cake every day. Everyone would eat them, including those that ate and ate and were still thin. When it came time for somebody's birthday, we would have a cake. Just say no to it all. They are all eating the cake it' because they are feeling the peer pressure to east it and they don't have the will to say no to it. What I do in these situations is I politely say no thank you, and DON'T LOOK AT THE CAKE....as your coworkers may think that you want it, and they'll bother you even more to eat it.
Otherwise, I just bring my own food, everywhere I go.
Best of luck to you.
Although people might not be familiar with the details of the SCD, everyone has at least used to having friends who go on diets. So most people will be perfectly happy to excuse you.
There might be a few meals like pizza or lasagne that you can't eat, but most meals you can east any of the meat and veg and just skip the obvious carbs. Or just arrange your meals with friends and families on cheat days.
Also remember that if the worst comes to the worst and you have a cheat meal, you can still have the rest of the day on SCD and not fall off the wagon.
Another good one is when somebody offers you cake, or fries or sweets or whatever, just say "No thanks I had some earlier today!".
Sometimes I'm just honest and say 'Unfortunately I'm far too disciplined to eat any of that' and you can always hide in plain sight - grab a few slices and do the offering yourself.
I'm heading home in a few weeks and I'm going to tell my family in advance I'm trying to eat a bit healthier and I'll just head out and pick some stuff up myself that I can add to the planned dinner.
I've avoided some social situations with friends I really wanted to see for similar reasons. And on occasion I've made time for them, and afterwards felt like the night was characterized by peer pressure and eventual giving in, then resentment and weight gain afterwards. It's frustrating.
I guess if you get invited somewhere, you can show up with an SCD friendly dish to share, as if you assumed the invite was for a potluck, thereby making sure you at least have something you can eat.
As for work at the coffee shop, I'd bring a bag of snacks. I have to go to a workshop this week and I've already plotted to bring a ziploc bag of raw green beans that I can snack on, and another (small!) bag of almonds. That will give me my protein and veggies. That sounds like something you might be able to plan for at work, and eat on the fly without a real break.
I had a similar experience. So often socializing revolves around eating or drinking, to which diets aren't the most adaptable.
Firstly, I was in a situation earlier this year where I had very little to no time to myself, and it's very hard to stick to the SCD this way. But I did it ahead of time with meal preparation. There has to be a fridge or something where you can store a lunch at your work. I would make a large batch of cheat day meals, knowing I'd be super busy, store them in the fridge at work so that when you have to (unfortunately) wolf down a meal, at least it's the right kind of meal. It takes discipline and establishing a routine if you're busy, but at least you're able to eat according to the diet. I'd usually do something I could prepare easily in large batches-- things like tri-tip, black beans and veggies that are fairly nutrient dense and can be prepared a few days ahead of time. It's more difficult if you're in the habit of eating salads or some such that tend to be bulkier and don't stand up to time. What I've done for that is just make or buy a salad dressing I know is SCD friendly, keep it at work, and spend 10 minutes in the morning to prep a high-protein, scd salad.
Secondly, I have to agree with Nadine. Plan your cheat days around friends and family. I've just let them know that I'm on a diet, that I can't eat those things, and they understand. Hell, if anything they ask me about my diet, how it's going, etc. I've also found that BBQing is very SCD friendly, and although it's a bit late in the year here in the northern hemisphere, it can be a good excuse to a) get friends and family together while b) maintaining your diet, as you control the menu and it is very meat-and-veg friendly.
I think having an excuse ready like "I'm working on my six-pack" like @Arelleth mentioned is more helpful than saying that you're "on a diet."
For some reason a lot of people think you have an eating disorder when you say "I'm dieting" and you're in the "normal" BMI/BF % range. (especially parents)
If someone invites me out for a drink I usually decline and suggest coffee instead.
Coffee or tea dates/meetups are my usual go to since they're pretty harmless.
Mexican food/restaurants also seem to be SCD-friendly if you do it right.
Sometimes I feel left out of social events too (even before SCD since I avoided sugary, calorie-rich foods), but if they know that you're health-conscious, then friends adapt
Peer pressure can be tough, but if you don't want to lose all your hard work, resist!
My thing is how critical some of my family members are. Evidently, my diet is "crazy" and some of my family have a weird need to let everyone know how absurd my diet is and how I'm a gullible sucker being taken for a ride by a greedy charlatan. They do all of this while acknowledging that I obviously look much better and I'm in much better shape. It's goddamn exhausting to be criticized by people who know that what I am doing is working for me.
I like "I'm working on a six-pack." That's my new line.
When my friends have me over or we go out they are really considerate to my 4HB lifestyle. Education is half the battle. I stick to it when I get out so I can waive off the ones who think I can't make it. Also, my best friend is coming to down from LA and I wanted to go out to dinner with her and her family. The first thing she says to me is make it a cheat day so that we can drink. Knowing is half the battle....
I struggle with this a great deal too. I also work at a coffee shop, where butter croissants and blueberry muffins practically dance around taunting me. Its hard too because if you say "I'm on a diet" everyone looks at you and says "you don't need to go on a diet." so I've started telling them "I'm working on my six-pack", usually gets a chuckle. But, there is always a broken cookie or scone that everyone is nibbling on and I feel so isolated/left out when I can't join in. Its like being excluded from the "water-cooler gossip". Also, often the night manger orders pizza or chili fries for the employees on her shift....its torture. Sorry, I wish I could offer some advice, but I'm searching for some myself, and the best I can do is sympathize.
I just want to add that I started the SCD when I knew my husband would be busy with work things in the evenings. Wednesday is when we meet at a cafe, head to the pub to see friends, and then go for a pizza afterwards. Knowing that our Wednesday schedule would be disrupted with work gave me a bit of strength to start. No temptations until cheat day on Saturday.
When we next go to the pub, I know I can have a glass of red or some sparkling water with lime...make it look like a gin and tonic.
Timing is a factor to start on the right foot.
Honestly, I think it can be tough socially. I skipped chat day this week ( but drank last night) and am going to try a 10 days till cheat day kinda thing this week. i don't feel like cheat day some weeks, it's weird! lol.... anyhow, i find that not making it SET that oh Saturday or oh Sunday is cheat ay means that when something comes up ( i have a date, let's say) I can be more flexible and that ill be my cheat day- and will most likely be a wednesday or tuesday or something. I think best thing s to try and plan for those social occasions and use them as cheats. People on this forum have been talking about Thanksgiving ( being Canadian, this is over for me!) and Christmas and New Yar's and marking them out in calendars to figure out when cheat days are and if there is enough time between whatever parties they have.
Also- you gotta learn to live with annoying people trying to shove cake down your throat or convince you that fruit won't make you fat etc. nay sayers will be everywhere
I have particular problems with this, having yo yo dieted for the last couple of years. I've gone 228-150-175-140-160-124-160 now 150. Especially from my father, who is so unsupportive because he thinks avoiding carbs is 'dangerous' and that I won't be getting nutrients I need and that I'm 'bulimic', he even sent me to hospital for a few weeks at my lowest weight. I wasn't even underweight yet they packed 20lbs on me in 3 weeks and I gained another 20 trying to 'eat normally' which would never work for me because I have addictive food tenancies. So from now on it's gonna be none of his business, I'll be 18 soon so he cannot control what goes in my mouth then! I think if it weren't for my father my weight would have been stable for the past year. Even at 140lb he thought I looked 'gaunt', and at 5'9 it looks great on me. I only see him a couple of days every couple of weeks or so I can keep somewhat of a distance until he learns to accept me.
Other than this major barrier, my best friends all think I'm anorexic and certainly aren't supportive. I'm pretty much on my own. but hey, I'm doing this for myself , not for anyone else and I've vowed this will be the last time I ever have to lose weight, and you should too.
It's YOUR choice what you eat, not one else'. Everytime you see a loved one eating something you want or persuading you how 'bad' the WOE is, just prepare to wow them and add another item to your cheat day list!
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